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Digital Safety for Kids: Age-Appropriate Internet Rules

4 April 2026

## Age-Appropriate Internet Access ### Ages 5-7: Supervised Only - All screen time happens in shared family spaces - Use kid-specific apps and websites with content filters - No social media, messaging, or unsupervised browsing - Watch YouTube Kids, not regular YouTube (and even then, co-view when possible) ### Ages 8-10: Guided Independence - Begin teaching safe browsing habits - Introduce the concept of personal information (never share name, school, address, phone number online) - If they have a device, set up parental controls - No social media accounts (most require age 13+) - Gaming: multiplayer games with chat features need supervision ### Ages 11-13: Growing Autonomy With Guard Rails - This is when most children get their first phone - Set up parental controls and have honest conversations about why - Social media: consider carefully. If you allow it, follow/friend their accounts - Teach them to recognize phishing, scams, and manipulative content - Discuss online reputation: anything posted is permanent ### Ages 14+: Trust With Verification - Gradually reduce parental controls as they demonstrate responsible behavior - Shift from monitoring to mentoring - Regular conversations about what they encounter online - Discuss consent, sexting laws, and digital footprint seriously ## Non-Negotiable Rules for All Ages 1. **Never share personal information** with strangers online (name, school, location, photos that identify where they are) 2. **Tell a parent immediately** if someone online makes them uncomfortable, asks to meet in person, or requests photos 3. **Nothing posted online is truly private** — screenshots exist, accounts get hacked, content gets shared 4. **Device-free zones**: bedrooms at night, dinner table 5. **Passwords shared with parents** until at least age 14 (this is about safety, not distrust) ## Parental Controls: What Works **Device-level:** - Screen Time (Apple) or Family Link (Google) for time limits and content filtering - SafeSearch on all browsers - App installation requires parent approval **Network-level:** - Router-level content filtering (most modern routers have this) - DNS-based filters like CleanBrowsing or OpenDNS **Important:** Parental controls are a safety net, not a substitute for education. A tech-savvy 12-year-old can bypass most controls. The real protection is knowledge and open communication. ## Teaching Online Judgment ### The "Grandma Test" Before posting anything, ask: "Would I be comfortable if Grandma saw this?" If no, don't post it. ### Recognizing Manipulation Teach your child to spot: - "Don't tell your parents" — anyone who says this is not safe - Too-good-to-be-true offers (free phones, gift cards) - Pressure to respond immediately ("If you don't reply in 10 minutes...") - Strangers who seem to know a lot about them (they found it on your profile) ### Digital Footprint Everything posted online creates a permanent trail. Future schools and employers search social media. A regrettable post at 14 can surface at 24. Help them understand this isn't just an abstract concern — it has real consequences. ## Cyberbullying Online bullying is more persistent than schoolyard bullying because there's no escape from it. **If your child is being cyberbullied:** - Don't take their device away (this punishes the victim and stops them from telling you) - Screenshot everything - Block the bully - Report to the platform - Inform the school if classmates are involved - Contact authorities if there are threats of violence **Teach your child not to be a bystander:** If they see someone being bullied online, they should not join in, like, or share. They can support the person privately and report the behavior. ## The Conversation, Not the Lecture The most effective digital safety tool is an ongoing conversation — not a one-time talk. Regularly ask: - "What apps are your friends using?" - "Has anything online made you uncomfortable lately?" - "Did you see anything interesting/weird/funny online today?" Keep the tone curious, not interrogating. The goal is that when something goes wrong online (and it will), your child comes to you first — not hides it.